What We Do to Fit In


In last week’s post, Jill told of her encounter with the Lord as she was putting on her boots – and the two pairs of socks and insole inserts it takes to make them fit. Then our daughter brought the following observations to the conversation.

A Future Guest Bloggers

For those who might not know, Jill and I have two adult children. Our son Kayce (pronounced “case”) is 25 years old and our daughter Jennah is 20. We’re blessed that we genuinely enjoy them as people and not because they’re our kids.

We’re also blessed that they are compassionate and wise. We’ve asked them to begin contributing to this blog and are excited that it’ll happen soon.

For today though, you’ll get Jennah’s thoughts second hand through me as well as some thoughts of my own.

And Also…

When we told her about last weeks’ post and what the Lord had revealed to Jill about her boots Jennah simply said, “and also how much trouble we all go through to fit in”.

So true.

“I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some. I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I may share in its blessings.” – 1 Corinthians 9:22-23

There is nothing wrong in fitting in. In fact, according to this passage written by Paul, there is a huge benefit “for the sake of the gospel”.

And though some may disagree, the Bible never expressly forbids making ourselves beautiful (or handsome). It cautions against over emphasis in multiple places (Proverbs 31:30, 1 Peter 3:3-4, 1 Samuel 16:7 and others) but it never says it is of no importance or unacceptable.

We’re Already “In”

The danger is when are we so caught up in “fitting in” that we forget who we are and Whose we are. Or perhaps it’s better said: who we are BECAUSE of Whose we are.

Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. – Colossians 3:1-3

This is one of those passages that is all two easy to gloss over because it sounds so…well, unbelievable. But what if it simply means what it says?

  • What if we’ve really been raised above…well, above everything?
  • What if we could set our minds on the things that matter above instead of earthly things?
  • And what if our life was really hidden in Christ?

If these things are true, doesn’t it mean everything we could possibly care or worry about is taken care of? Completely?

That’s exactly what it means.

How Will You Use Your Energy?

And what that means in relation to boots is that we can dress and present ourselves to the world in the best way we can and not waste time and energy in wondering if it’s “good enough”. It means we can walk out our lives in rest and in peace.

As I’ve mentioned before, Gayle Erwin writes in his book, The Jesus Style: “Anything we hide forces us to live in a way that will keep what we hide safely hidden. In other words, we become unreal–untrue to ourselves–incongruent.” That unreality is opposite to the nature of Jesus who is the God of reality. No energy was spent in covering His life with a mask. In Him, there was no darkness at all (pages 62-63).”

All that hiding is exhausting and as we’ve just read, unnecessary.

We are called to rest in the Lord and what He has done so that we can expend our energy in the direction of others.

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