She’s A Mean One


Jill and I had a disturbing moment this past weekend during a Garage Sale we held at our house. A moment of sadness for a precious little girl.

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” — Proverbs 18:21


About mid-morning, a car pulled up in front of our house. An older woman got out of the the passenger seat and started looking at our junk…um, I mean stuff.

The driver of the car got out and opened the backdoor of the car, which was facing away from us on the street. We couldn’t tell what she was doing until a pair of bright red, floppy Fireman Snoopy Slippers appeared under the car and scurried towards our driveway.

That’s when we saw her.

Fireman Snoopy

She was an adorable little girl with beautiful dark hair. She had on a cute cotton shirt and short set and the slippers which were obviously a favorite! When we said we loved her shoes, her grandmother confirmed our hunch that they had just bought them for her and she wouldn’t take them off.

Eventually the little girl found a toy she wanted and her mother gave her fifty cents to pay.

As I look back on this moment, I’ve realized that I was genuinely thrilled that I’d get to meet her.

I’m telling you this because I’m simply more comfortable with adults. I’ve often said I’m a better father to my own kids now that they are young adults than when they were young.

So again, as I look back on this moment, it was odd that I felt compelled to get out of my seat and kneel down to receive the 50 cents from her hand. As she shyly handed me the money without saying a word or looking me in the eye Jill and I both commented again on her shoes and added how beautiful she was.

And her mom said, “oh she’s a mean one”.

We were stunned.


We were literally speechless as they got in their car and left. Eventually one of us said, “wow” and the other, “sad”. That was about all we could say.

As I write this post two days later, I still feel a sense of life being literally stolen by those words.

“Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.”
— James 3:10

We need to watch our words folks.

  • “He’ll never amount to anything”
  • “Bless her heart, she’s…”
  • “He’s dumb as a…”
  • “You won’t believe what she did…”
  • “Well, at least he’s…”

“The tongue has the power of life and death.” — Proverbs 18:21

Let’s choose life every time.