Still Honored By All


(Note: this is a post that first appeared in the first month of this blog nearly two years ago. In light of many recent conversations, it’s still relevant.)

An adult friend of mine and his Mother were at a wedding when she turned to him and said, “where is this kind of support when marriages struggle? I know a husband who is calling it quits after more than 25 years together. Where are the men questioning what he’s doing and encouraging him to stay and work it out?”

She’s right.

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed be kept pure…” – Hebrews 13:4

Our Story

If you’ve read the Steve and Jill page, you know that years 7 and 8 of our marriage were a…challenge. We made it through because of three interrelated factors:

  1. We believed that marriage was a covenant for life. We still do.
  2. Neither one of us wanted to get a divorce on the same day. This meant that when one wanted to leave the other said, “no, not today.” We literally made it through our toughest period one day at a time.
  3. We sought council and hung around people that…well, honored marriage.

Neither of these factors was enough to save our marriage individually. Together, however, they kept us in the fight.

And the fight was worth it.

The Affect of Honor

We are not sharing this story to give ourselves kudos or to in anyway imply that success is easy or assured.

We are sharing a personal testimony about the affect of honoring marriage. Honoring marriage means treating it as something valuable and treasured. Let’s look at these in reverse order:

  • Treasured – the Greek word for honored, timios, means “as of great price, precious” and “held in honour, esteemed, especially dear”
  • Valuable – marriage matters. Not just for the people involved, but for all of humanity.
  • Something – while it’s true that marriage is made up of two people, it is a “thing” unto itself.

That marriage is a “something” created by two people is the most important lesson we learned from our experience outside of the faithfulness of God. And just like any other “something”, marriage can be examined, diagnosed, discussed, worked on, worked in, tweaked.



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