This past week I came across a post on Facebook about someone with whom I had “crossed hairs” a long time ago. As I saw her picture, I felt a twinge of unforgiveness in my spirit. It was subtle, but it was there no less.

I went to God and asked for His help.

I Thought I Had Forgiven

I thought I had forgiven her and for the most part I had, but I guess there was still more to go because there it was as I prayed—the justification for why I was feeling the way I was feeling! When you forgive someone, you don’t justify. Period. The minute you justify, you are stating your case for unforgiveness. So I had to ask the Lord to help me forgive her and work on my heart.

The Bigger Loser

You see, if you don’t forgive, you end up being the bigger loser, not them. Unforgiveness eats at you like a cancer that over takes you. And by the way, this unforgiveness goes for ones who are now dead and yourself as well. Unforgiveness simmers and takes over as bitterness. Your face structure can change because you wear a scowl and your health can become compromised—all because of unforgiveness.

God wants us to forgive! Jesus said in Matthew 6:14-15: “For if you forgive people their wrongdoing, your heavenly Father will forgive you as well. But if you don’t forgive people, your Father will not forgive your wrongdoing.”

I want to forgive because I want to be forgiven, too!

“Blessed are the merciful, because they will be shown mercy” – Matthew 5:7

This goes for yourself, too. If you are embittered against yourself for some past mistake or shortcoming, forgive yourself. Then, to the best of your abilities, let it go and move on. Bitterness and regret are not part of God’s plan for your life, but forgiveness is!

“God calls upon the loved not just to love but to be loving. God calls upon the forgiven not just to forgive but to be forgiving.” – Beth Moore

Stop Fighting

There comes a time in life where you have to lay your sword down and begin the healing process and forgive. There may be consequences to your battle, but you still need to forgive. The Father commands it.

“”You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father in Heaven.” — Matthew 5:43-45a

Will you pray this with me?  “I surrender all Lord! I surrender my heart to You Lord, and ask that you help me forgive those I hold unforgiveness against. Transform my heart God. Help me have mercy and forgiveness on others as You have had on me. Amen.”

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